How many people do you know actually set and keep resolutions for the New Year? New Year’s resolutions have been around for a very long time and there are people who really take these things seriously. Some try for a period of time towards their goals and give up. While many others don’t plan for resolutions knowing that they don’t want the pressure, or won’t follow through on their goals anyway.
- Exercise more
- Lose weight
- Get organized
- Learn a new skill or hobby
- Live life to the fullest
- Save more money / spend less money
- Quit smoking
- Spend more time with family and friends
- Travel more
- Read/write more
- More self-care / alone time
- Working on yourself / healing
Typically speaking, New Year’s resolutions are a helpful thing to set and can inspire people to do better and become better versions of themselves. Another positive aspect is that it’s a very typical time for people to work on themselves and so many others will be keeping up with their resolutions as well. Sometimes, there can even be accountability groups formed with others who have similar or the same goals which can be motivating and inspiring.
The main downside about New Year’s resolutions is that it can add a lot of pressure to people, as they can make very unrealistic expectations of themselves and it can be overwhelming or hard to maintain. For some, it can be easy to get into the routine for some time but if or when they fall off, it can be very disheartening and frustrating.
With that being said, I think it’s very wise to set “SMART” goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound to set yourself up better for success within your resolutions. Something else that may be helpful is to not be hard on yourself if you slip up or miss a day, it’s important to speak kindly to yourself along the process of change.
As a therapist, I find that not long after the New Year I start to receive more interest in people wanting to work with me. I believe it definitely has something to do with New Year’s resolutions and the spirit of becoming a better version of themselves in the new year. While I obviously support this idea, I feel it’s important to note that it doesn’t need to be a New Year to set goals and resolutions for yourself. I believe that we can always keep growing, healing, and expanding every single day that we’re alive. It’s never too late to become the version of yourself you’ve always wanted to be!
If you’re looking to work on your mental health and wellness this year, maybe psychotherapy is just what you need!