We are all somehow trained to wear masks to fit societal and familial expectations. Nobody is exempted from this rule since we are humans and social creatures, we all want to feel a sense of belonging. Many times we come to believe that we must be a certain way or change ourselves to be accepted or loved when the exact opposite is true.
So many people who people-please in relationships and become different versions of themselves to appease others or to find acceptance. Many people want to be someone considered “cool” or “interesting” to another person so that they become a very different person from who they really are. Eventually, these dynamics stop working, the masks come off, and underneath it are two people together who aren’t compatible or right for one another. This is because the relationship is based on becoming someone else and not embracing who you really are and not based on the safety of being your full expression.
The reality is that the more “you” you become, the more you attract people who will love and accept you unconditionally. That’s why it is so important to do the inner work to raise your self-esteem and become your true self, because if not, you may not even be aware of the masks you are wearing or the trauma that occurred that made you begin wearing the masks in the first place. The path to becoming your true self is certainly a big process and can be scary since it’s always possible to be rejected and not accepted. It’s quite the re-programming experience.
However, it is important to note that not everyone is going to love your true self. Some people may be triggered and some people just aren’t your people. But what’s amazing about becoming your true self is that the people who do love you, love the REAL you. When you are confident to be the true you, you begin to attract people who are in full alignment with you and who support your true expression. If you’re looking to attract your perfect match or to become your true self, I would love to work with you.