Life is difficult…
It’s a beautiful, complicated, perfectly imperfect mess. Since we are all unique beings with unique experiences, there is no such thing as having a better or worse life or story. Comparison is not only the thief of joy but also a thief of the validation of the fact that we all have trauma and difficult experiences that we’ve been through. We ALL have work and healing to do. Truly the only “good or bad” life we can compare ourselves to is our past selves and comparing how much happier, more fulfilled and how much more you are living your truth or not living your truth compared to the past. We all have a mess to clean up… so stop comparing it to other people’s.
Nobody who is living is fully healed! Part of being human and experiencing this human experience means making mistakes, growing and changing and constantly healing and progressing to making yourself a better and happier individual. If you’re the type of person who believes that you’re fully healed or that others are fully healed, I have news for you… the healing never ends. We all need love, support and therapy from time to time, therapists too!
High five to you for all the hard work you’ve done so far on your journey! Whether you’ve been on this path to healing yourself for a long while or have just begun it recently, there’s something to be said for those brave enough to seek out the healing journey. If you’re alive and reading this now, I commend you for your strength and resilience in getting through the hard times. You have done an amazing job so far! Maybe some of your coping mechanisms need some adjustments, maybe you could use a new perspective, maybe you could be easier on yourself or others, but hey! Let’s celebrate the win of surviving the challenges of life!
Sometimes our life can seem so daunting: All the trauma, pain, challenges, difficulties, complications, etc. It can feel so hard that we prefer to run from these challenges or escape. I understand that sensation, I’ve been there myself. But let me tell you that life catches up with you. You can only sweep this stuff under the rug for so long before you grow emotional and psychological mould, maggots and dust. Kind of like what those who skydive say, it’s the anxiety before doing it that makes it so hard but once you’re out of that plane, the fear is gone! I encourage you to rip off that bandaid and do the work, you won’t regret it.
Healing does not happen when you:
🥀 Think someone else will heal you
🥀 Don’t put in the work/effort and do the exercises/activities or homework required
🥀 Don’t take accountability for your actions/wrongdoings
🥀 Don’t believe you will ever get better and feel hopeless
🥀 You avoid discomfort by not looking at/avoiding your most painful traumas and emotions
🥀 Are hard on yourself constantly about your progress
Healing happens when you can become self-aware, believe you can get better and invest the time and energy into working through your ancestral cycles, past traumas, emotions, maladaptive patterns and habits.
Who’s ready to dive in?!